Making Relationships Work.

Updated: Aug 1

Making relationships work. One of the most common questions life coaches {& best friends} are asked on a daily basis. How can I make my relationship work? First hand, I can tell you this is a double-edged sword. Every philosopher, influencer, & writer will have a different theory on how to create such magic. Here is mine. Christine Poccia. The then, 36-year old who woke up one day realizing there was so much more to life than worrying about the background noise. The girl, who herself, made 1,000 or more mistakes and was no longer embarrassed by not a single one. The one who now only surrounds herself with anyone who too feels the same way. The person who realized she had developed a gift, little by little, telling the world with little fear of what others would say. So here I am a year later, guaranteeing you one thing; my response will now be quite different than what it would have been way back then.

So going back to that painstaking question, we all at one time or another longed to have the answer for; how can we make our relationship work? After some final thoughts, here is my non biased truth. Your relationship can be anything you want it to be; you just have to believe in it, with every single thought. Now, that is not a quote I copied off of google or one I pinned on Pinterest last night; it truly is my answer to the question. That's the bottom line. With all my heart & Soul, I believe that whatever you believe in, entrust it in your maker, and you shall receive it. Positive thoughts are powerful. With that being said, do not be delusional, believing you can just stay in bed all day thinking positive & your life will remain magical. Relationships take hard work. But the first step is believing in it and finding someone who believes in it too. Factually, you can only do 50% of the work needed & be responsible for 50% of the outcome of the relationship, despite what any expert tells you.

No two relationships are the same; that is the true beauty of them. Some come as life lessons, while others come to shake things up. Believing your path is ordered regardless of whether it hurts is essential. You need to believe in the process; what's meant for you will never pass you by. Ever. Once you find someone worthy of this process, you will know. What suited you ten years ago may no longer be what suits you now. Searching deep into your true inner Soul self will reveal all of the answers you have longed for. Being an intuitive life coach has its perks in sharing my intuition with my clients without playing God, helping to guide you.

Once you discover your actual inner needs, you can truly focus on making your life work. If you don't know what you need, how can you expect your partner to? If you don't ask about their day, how can you relate to it? If you don't tell them they are beautiful or show them, love, how will they feel it? These are all the elephants in the room. Give love. Give so much of it and watch in awe as to how much more comes directly back to you.

With that being said, it is essential to know your needs simultaneously as being cognitive of your partners'. You can be missing crucial cries for help while focusing on yourself and you alone. This key point I am trying to drive home is that you are half of a whole. You can not expect to grow flowers if you don't plant seeds. You can't expect anything in life without watering it and nurturing it. We are all unique damaged individuals that require love to truly feel complete. Now while others may disagree, I am just giving my valued opinion. If you are not currently in a relationship, take the time to find yourself first. If that doesn't pertain to you, still find yourself but make the time to find your partner too. Dig deep. Not everyone loves and feels love the same.

Giving and receiving love is crucial. We all make mistakes. We are all human. But just be present. Be there. Not on your phone. Not on the gram. Set your work and personal time aside. Keep in mind that something done once is a mistake; something repeated is a choice. I genuinely believe people can change, but you can not change them. They need to change within. Pray every day, no matter who or what you believe in. Pray and believe. Tune out the background noise, give love & show love; that's how you will make your relationship work. In my self-discovery process, I became committed to sharing every valuable lesson I have learned along the way, even if that means putting myself out there for the whole world to see. These are the sacrifices we all need to make. Change your life while changing the lives of others. That's how the karmic circle goes round. This is how we make our relationships work.

Till we meet again,

Christine Poccia, RN

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